Most people experience moments of being rude during a low times in their life but a few people are rude all the time. Sadly, the "all the time" group, probably doesn't even know they are being rude. It has become a way of life. The people around them find it easier to ignore the rude behavior rather than to point it out. They ignore the behavior because it shortens their interaction time with the rude person and avoids any confrontation. However, when this behavior goes ignored, it sends the message that how that person is treating you is acceptable and makes certain it will be repeated.
Getting the feedback that you are rude is jolting. No one wants this label. With the right tone and timing, pointing out to someone that what they said or did was unacceptable has a way of dramatically changing how that person interacts with you in the future. Why do we let people be rude to us? Why is it so hard to tell them?
How can you tell if you are being rude? Below are the 10 signs you may be being perceived as rude by other people:
10. You are always late
9. You don't return phone calls or emails
8. You ignore people that you know so you don't have to talk to them
7. You don't tell people when plans change and they
show up based on the original plan
6. You interrupt people when they are speaking
5. You wait to the last minute to complete work and make
your emergency someone else's
4. You are brutally honest with people not because it is
the right thing to do but because it makes you feel
better about yourself.
3. You purposely leave people out of conversations or
meetings to gain power from knowledge
2. When someone is out of work for a day or two you are more
concerned about how their absence will effect your work than
you are about the reason they have to miss work
1. You don't listen to what people say
The cure for rudeness... stop thinking about yourself, start thinking of others, and tell people when they are being rude to you. The opposite of rude is being kind, mannerly, polite and respectful. Start a routine of respecting other's time, finding ways to care about people, and refusing to ignore rude behavior. What is your label?
